‘Ask Us Anything’ Guest With Wife and Twins Opens Up About Trauma, Multiple Personalities, and Gender Dysphoria

On the latest episode of KBS Joy’s Ask Us Anything (aired on the 11th), a guest preparing for gender-affirming surgery opened up about living with dissociative identity disorder and the emotional journey that led to this decision.

The guest, who has been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder, revealed, “I have three personalities.” They explained, “There’s my main personality, who is a professional fitness athlete, a female personality who represents my childhood, and a managerial personality who oversees the others. In total, there are five personalities, but I’m only aware of three.”

They continued, “After years of therapy, my personalities have integrated over the past seven years, so now we’re aware of each other. When I teach classes, I adapt to the social environment, so it’s manageable.”

The guest shared that hiding their personalities to fit in led to episodes of depersonalization, and that their gender identity disorder is closely tied to these experiences.



They said, “Even after receiving testosterone treatments at a university hospital, nothing changed. So I began estrogen therapy and am now transitioning. This winter, I’m scheduled for breast and facial surgery, but I’m worried about whether I’ll be able to continue my social life afterward.”

The guest also revealed that they married in 2008, before their symptoms emerged, and have a wife and twin children.

In a particularly emotional moment, the guest shared, “From age five until just before starting elementary school, I was sexually assaulted many times.” They continued, “After experiencing so many traumatic events as a child, I thought I was a girl. The first time I realized something was different was during military leave. I have no memory of it, but a close friend told me he slapped me and took me home because I was rambling and incoherent.”

They added, “In the past, when my personality changed, I would lose my memory. When I was 35, my younger sibling suddenly became ill and needed heart surgery. While sitting in the emergency room late at night, my female personality surfaced. Things got worse, and eventually, each personality lived separate lives—different homes, cars, even phone numbers.”

The guest began seeking treatment in 2020 after finding unfamiliar videos on their phone and feeling unsure about their future.

Looking ahead to the upcoming winter, they explained, “I’m not getting breast surgery to become a woman, but because I want that personality to be respected.”



Host Seo Jang-hoon responded with heartfelt advice: “We can’t truly understand the pain you carry. But no matter how hard things get, you have a family—your wife and children depend on you. To take responsibility, you should continue working as a trainer, which you’re best at, so you can support your kids and care for your wife.”

Seo Jang-hoon added, “If you go through with the breast surgery, it could make things much harder. As the head of your family, going through with this surgery, regardless of your personalities, might be irresponsible. Understanding your situation is one thing, but your responsibilities as a parent and spouse are above all else.”

Photo Credit: KBS Joy Ask Us Anything

This article is a translated version of the original Korean article published by Xportsnews, originally written by Woo Sunmi. This article was translated from Korean using AI-assisted tools and human review to deliver an accurate and culturally appropriate version for international readers.